The Secret to Owning Your Power in Any Relationship

Do you ever feel taken advantage of? I could be in a relationship with a partner or friend, a work associate or client, or even your own kids.

A lot of the time when we feel taken advantage of it’s because we focus on what the other person is doing or not doing, saying or not saying.

If only they would stop doing whatever, everything would be ok.

The problem is we can’t control other people. We can only control our own thoughts and actions.

When we focus on the other person, we lose ourselves and our power.

The secret to owning your power in any relationship is to take care of yourself – regardless of what the other person is or isn’t doing.

Ask yourself:

  • Is this good enough for me?
  • Is this what I want?
  • What do I need to do now to take care of my needs and wants myself?

When you reshift the focus on yourself, you are owning your power. You are taking the power back for yourself.

Are you feeling taken advantage of in any areas of your life? Is there a way you can take better care of yourself in that relationship?

Take Care of Yourself

To get started taking better care of yourself, consider downloading our free journal page. You can use these three writing prompts in that document or just get a piece of paper out and answer the following:

  • I need – Meeting your needs is an important component to happiness, but often, we’re so busy meeting everyone else’s needs, we forget about our own. Ignoring or repressing our needs feel bad. Meeting our needs feel good. Use the ‘I need’ journal prompt to give a voice to what is missing in your life. Take a few minute to write down three needs you have right now. How can you get those needs met?  

  • I want – There are many things that we want and it’s important to give a voice to them. Use the ‘I want’ journal prompt to identify somethings that you want – even if they seem totally crazy. What’s the difference with needs and wants? Needs you need in order to survive. Wants are an extra bonus, but not necessary. Like I want to go to London. I want to have sushi for dinner. Things like that.

  • I feel – Processing your feelings is important. If you stifle them or ignore them, they can come back in a not so fun form. That can be in the form of yelling at a loved one, feeling depressed, or more. So journaling to feel your feelings and let them go is a great way to get on the path to feeling good again. Remember, there are no bad feelings. They just are. Feel them and then let them go. If you have trouble identifying your feelings, use this feelings wheel as a start.

Feelings Wheel

I have found that taking this one day at a time helps to not feel overwhelmed. I’ve had to realize that I can’t get all my needs and wants met in one day, but what can I do, just for today, that will make me feel better? What is in my control?

Take the Next Step

The You Spark journal is a guided journal that helps you answer these questions on a daily basis, while setting small micro-goals for yourself so you can boost your self confidence and have more inner peace. Check it out here.

What can you do today to start taking care of yourself? Leave a comment below.

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